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As the marriage age grows steadily higher, more and more couples find themselves entering marriage with all of the basic dishes, linens, and home goods that are usually listed on a bridal registry.  In many cases, the bride and groom may really prefer cash as a wedding gift.  While traditional etiquette frowns on this, don’t immediately give in and register for items you don’t need.

Best Way to Ask for Cash Gifts
While it is still considered rude to ask for money outright, there are plenty of more subtle ways to go about doing this.  The best way to let your guests know what you want is by word of mouth.  Make sure that your close friends and family all know that you prefer to receive money.  The bridal party should be in on this as well, as guests may contact one of them (most likely the Maid of Honor or Best Man) to get this information.

In most cases, your guests will understand.  Many of the people invited to your wedding are likely to be close friends and family that you are able to be honest with.  You should let them know why you prefer money if possible.  In many cases this may be because you are saving for large purchases such as furniture, a new house, or a car.

Gifts for Charity
Another option if you prefer to forgo traditional wedding gifts is to have money donated in your names to a charity.  If you decide to go this route, select your favorite charity and contact them.  They may be able to offer advice on setting up a special fund for this event and can give you specific instructions on how your guests should donate.  Though this is still considered a monetary gift, it is a beautiful way to give back and use your wedding as a way to better the world.

Thank You Note
Remember to keep careful track of all gifts received.  It can be especially easy to lose track if you are collecting several checks.  Dedicate a special notebook or spreadsheet to keeping careful track of this information.  When it comes to gifts, keep in mind that your guests will appreciate knowing what you would really like.  By providing this information in a tactful and polite manner, you will be able to get the type of gifts you want without upsetting etiquette and tradition – lastly, do not forget to send a thank you note to your guests

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